Bar & Bat Mitzvah Services
The right music can make or break your party, and Bar Mitzvahs are no exception. Since your DJ runs the party, choosing the right Bar Mitzvah disc jockey is the most important decision you’ll have to make in order to ensure that your party runs smoothly.
Sample Format For A Bar/Bat Mitzvah
1. Cocktail Hour – You will have music in the cocktail room. If the cocktail hour is in a room other than the main room we will supply a separate sound system. (If you want dancers, they will be in the cocktail room with the kids and getting to know all of their names etc.) Please Note: It is also a good idea to call us about extra entertainment and/or games for the kids during cocktail hour.
2. Main Room – The main room opens with a Bar Mitzvah boy or Bat Mitzvah girl frozen on our stages (with our dancers). The guest of honor helps us open the main room. We introduce the guest of honor and our dancers and then we will get your guests on the dance floor and dance with them for about 10 to 15 minutes.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Format
- Candle Lighting List
- Candle Lighting Music Form
Music Request Form
- Candle Lighting Songs & Special Dances
Suggestions for Spotlight Dances
Then we will proceed with a Grand Entrance of our family, the Mozet, toast if any, and Candle Lighting Ceremony. After the Candle Lighting Ceremony we will do our Hora’s and then sit you down for the first course* or buffet.
* During all courses we play softer, slower music.
3. After the first course, we will proceed with the First Dance and or a toast, or speeches.
4. Now it is party time! After your first course, we will play music from all different eras to please all of your guests. Our music varies from 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, Motown and current dance hits.
We will only sit your guests down if it is requested by the caterer, in order to serve the next course.
5. We dance all night, party and have a good time. We will play games with the children during and after main course or buffet.
6. Just a helpflul reminder, in setting up your candle lighting list please have Grandparents first, Aunts and Uncles and Cousins next, Family Friends, our Guest of Honor’s Friends then the Immediate Family. This is a basic way of organizing your Candle Lighting Ceremony, however it can be changed to your liking.
This is a basic format of a party and this format can be changed as per your request.
We will work with you to create your dream come true.
History of Bar and Bat Mitzvahs
Throughout history, many groups of people have had rituals to celebrate the time when a boy becomes and man, and a girl becomes a woman. For Jewish people, these rituals are called bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah. Bar mitzvah is the Hebrew phrase meaning “son of the commandment,” and bat mitzvah means “daughter of the commandment.” Becoming a bar or bat mitzvah means that a boy or girl has become an adult, and is fully responsible for his or her morals and religious duties. It also means that he or she has become a full-fledged member of the Jewish community, and must follow the rules of Jewish life ? the commandments.
Both rituals are usually held in the Jewish temple, or synagogue, and are followed by a party to celebrate. Family, friends, and members of the synagogue come to celebrate the young person’s coming of age. During bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah ceremonies, the boy or girl actively participates in the ceremony – reading prayers and giving his or her own personal speech. It is a chance for the young people to express themselves as individuals. Often, a bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah are essentially the same, and follow the same format. However, the form of the ceremony may vary, depending on the branch of Judaism and the young adult. Some Jewish boys and girls may not even have a formal ceremony at all.
Did the Bar/t Mitzvah originate in the Torah? Contrary to what many believe, the bar mitzvah ceremony did not originate from the Bible. It grew out of the need for boys to celebrate their coming of age, long before the Jewish religion existed. Historians and sociologists have discovered evidence of such rites of passage in ancient tribes and cultures all over the globe. The modern bar mitzvah has evolved and grown from these early rituals.
Ancient coming-of-age rituals usually involved some sort of initiation. In some tribes, a young boy had to hunt, cook, and eat a large animal in order to be initiated. Others had to endure tests of strength, speed, or skill to prove they had become a man. As the Jewish religion grew, similar initiation ceremonies were probably common. Eventually however, the emphasis changed to that of a spiritual coming-of-age rather than a physical one.
Historians also found that ancient initiations usually occurred when a boy was between the ages of twelve and fourteen, as he reached maturity. Similarly, rabbis fixed the age of responsibility for Jewish boys at age thirteen during the Middle Ages. Even though there was no bar mitzvah in the early days, age thirteen marked a significant turning point into adulthood.
In ancient times, boys were encouraged to begin studying the Bible as soon as they learned to read, often as early as age five. Boys who were advanced in their religious studies were allowed to take part in religious services, even before they reached thirteen. Since there were no rules against it, children were encouraged to live up to the commandments as soon as they could understand them and take part in religious services. By the time a boy turned thirteen, it was not an option to follow the commandments, it was an expectation.
On a boy’s thirteenth birthday, he was taken to an elder rabbi and blessed. Typically, the rabbi would pray with the boy, ask that he remember the commandments and encourage him to do good deeds. Although this birthday was considered a major turning point in a boy’s life, there wasn’t a need to hold a special ceremony like a modern bar mitzvah since he had likely been taking part in religious services for years.
Over time, the Jewish community began to change their attitude about children taking part in religious services. They felt that children were too young to take an adult role in the synagogue. By the Middle Ages, the participation of young children in religious services and ceremonies was strongly discouraged. Gradually, the custom of waiting until a boy turned thirteen became accepted.
With this acceptance, a boy’s thirteenth birthday became an important occasion in his life. When he turned thirteen, he was allowed to take part in a religious service for the first time. This coming-of-age event seemed to call for a special ceremony, which eventually grew more significant and elaborate. Today, the modern bar mitzvah ceremony in celebrated on the Sabbath, the day of rest, coinciding with or immediately following his thirteenth birthday. The Sabbath begins at sundown on Friday and lasts until nightfall on Saturday.
History of the Bat Mitzvah: Unlike boys, there isn’t a long history of coming-of-age rituals for girls. Rather, the idea of such a ceremony for girls, called a bat mitzvah, developed as the bar mitzvah became popular in Europe for boys. Historians discovered evidence that families began honoring their daughters with a special meal for their twelfth birthday in countries such as France, Italy and Germany about 200 years ago.
Why girls are Bat Mitzvahed at age 12: Since girls physically mature at an earlier age than boys, twelve, not thirteen, was the age chosen for a Jewish girl’s passage into adulthood.
Gradually, the idea of a bat mitzvah became more popular and spread across Europe. However, it wasn’t until 1922 that the first bat mitzvah in North America was celebrated. At the time, Jewish women were struggling for a voice in the synagogue just as women across the nation were fighting for their rights as citizens. Because the bat mitzvah gave Jewish women a voice, it was a controversial event that many traditional Jews did not accept. Not all branches of Judaism allowed women to be involved in prayer, and thus did not support the idea of a bat mitzvah.
Even as the idea of a bat mitzvah spread and became more popular, it was not widely accepted. Most Jewish girls did not have an opportunity to become a bat mitzvah in a synagogue ceremony until the 1950s, or later. Age-old Jewish traditions were, in part, responsible for hindering the advancement of the bat mitzvah. Throughout history, Jewish women had a separate and much less active role in prayer than men. A woman’s position was in the home, rather than the synagogue, and most synagogues had separate sections for women to sit. Even today, women sit apart from men in Orthodox congregations. Only in other branches of the Jewish religion, such as Conservative, Reconstructionist and Reform Judaism, do men and women sit together.
An early bat mitzvah usually followed the same format as a bar mitzvah because young girls did not have any female role models to look up to. Their mothers and grandmothers did not have the same opportunity, and there weren’t any female rabbis to look up to until the 1970s. Today, young Jewish women have more freedom to express themselves at a bat mitzvah. Since the coming-of-age ceremony does not have a long history, young women are not bound by age-old traditions like young Jewish men.
The bat mitzvah is still a relatively new idea that continues to evolve. The modern bat mitzvah varies depending on a young woman’s congregation. In many synagogues, a girl prepares for her bat mitzvah in the same way that a boy gets ready for his bar mitzvah. In other Jewish communities, the ceremony is very different, and in some there is not a ceremony at all. Furthermore, many women who were not allowed to have a bat mitzvah when they were younger, choose to have one as an adult. Often, such women choose to do this in groups after studying together for an extended period of time.
Coke and Pepsi
C/P is an elimination game. You will ask the kids to grab a partner. Have each group of two line up across from each other at either end of the dance floor. One side of the dance floor will be named Coke and the other will be Pepsi. You then explain the object of the game by telling them you will either be saying Pepsi or Coke. If you say Pepsi, the Pepsi side has to run over and sit on Coke’s lap. If you say Coke, the Coke side has to run across and sit on Pepsi’s lap. There is also one more soft drink involved and that is Dr. Pepper. If you say “Dr. Pepper, all the kids have to run to the center of the dance floor. At that time the DJ will put on a style of music the kids have to dance to. For instance if the song is “Staying Alive”, than they will have to dance like John Travolta. If it is a country tune, then of course have them Doe C Doe and if you have a classical song, have them dance like ballerinas. The last one is my personal favorite because the boys really ham it up! The object of this game is to get to your partner’s side of the dance floor when your soft drink is mentioned as fast as you can. The last person to get to the other side is out until the last team is left. Let them run back and forth a couple of times before you start eliminating. You can also psyche the kids out by saying the same drink twice and pointing in the other direction. Usually 3 sets of kids will move and you can eliminate them faster. Call out the name of the guest of honor and everyone points at them and yells out “YOU ARE THE GREATEST!”
Limbo is also an elimination game and great because it’s for all ages. Little kids can play as well as the adults and believe it or not some adults will come up to play. You will have all the kids line up behind the Mitzvah child and then explain the rules. Ask two kids who are not really participating in the games to hold the Limbo stick. This will help break the ice with them because they will feel like they are part of the party without playing what they think is a child’s game (pretty clever huh?). The rules for Limbo are as follows: First, I tell them they must go feet first head last (no surfing either). In addition I also mention that they may not touch the Limbo stick at any time with any part of their body. Finally, they are not allowed to have their hands, knees or bottom touch the floor and at no time can they jump over the Limbo stick. The last person left will win a prize. I usually have a junior winner for the little ones and the grand prize goes to one of the older kids. May also do this as a couple or team event with more than one going under at the same time.
Suggested Music: Limbo Rock, Hot, Hot, Hot or other Island Music.
Musical Chairs Scavenger Hunt
Musical Chairs Scavenger Hunt is Musical Chairs with a twist. It is played just like regular MCs but when the music stops, you will shout out an object for instance “a tie.” The kids then have to go out into the audience, find a tie and get back to a seat before they are all taken. This will continue with other objects that you shout out but before they get a new object, they must return the object they have in their hand back to the person they got it from. They may not take an object from their own body. It must be from another source. A couple of examples of items you can use are ties, shoes, sunglasses, a spoon, lipstick, a comb, etc. The last item I usually call out is always a perfectly square piece of toilet paper from the restroom. This gets quite a laugh and ends the game with a bang.
Unwrap the Gift
A gift is wrapped over and over and over with paper and tape and more tape. Players roll fuzzy dice until they get doubles, when they do they go in the middle and put on big gloves, hat, shirt or whatever and try to unwrap the gift. While this is happening, other players are still rolling the dice so when the next person gets doubles, they go to the middle and have to put on all the stuff and try to open the gift. The person who gets the gift, wins!
This is a very high energy game. Everybody gets a balloon attached to a string that is tied to their ankle. The object is to pop other peoples balloon’s while protecting yours. Players must stay within arranged areas. You can spice this up by adding a freeze portion. When the music stops, all must stop.
Suggested Music: Get Ready For This, or any Hi NRG Song!
Balloon Pass #1
Teams are made, two lines facing each other for each team. 1st two people put balloons between them where ever the DJ calls, i.e.: hips, shoulders, stomach and they hold the balloon at between that point on their bodies and go to the end of the line where the balloon is passed back to the head of the line and the next couple go.
Balloon Pass #2
For this fast and fun game, you make long lines of people. For example, three ines of ten people each. The first person in line passes a balloon over their head to the person behind them, who in turn passes the balloon between their legs to the person behind them, who passes the balloon over their head and so on. When the balloon gets to the end of the line, that person runs to the front of the line and i starts all over. The line that gets the starting person all the way to the back wins!
Four people per team, two poppers and two blowers. The object is simple, two people blow up the balloons and two people pop them. But they must be popped by holding the balloon between the two people and not using the hands.
For this game you need teams of three or four. 1 person is the “stuffy” and the others are the “stuffers”. The “stuffy” puts on an oversized t-shirt, the s”stuffers” are given balloons. The object is for the “stuffers” to blow up balloons and stuff them under the t-shirt of the “stuffy”. The team with the most balloons under the shirt in a given time wins!
Hula-Hoops are pretty straightforward. The girls especially love to play with them and I usually mention over the microphone that this is a great opportunity to practice for the contest that will be coming up later on in the party. You will also find the adults joining in because this is such a nostalgic toy for them.
Pass The Hula Hoop
There are many ways to use Hula Hoops, one of the best is to make big circles of people, have them hold hands, put the hoop between them, play a fast song, then, the hoop must be passed around the circle without breaking the hands. When the music stops, whoever has the hoop around them, is out. This continues until there is only one person left.
Musical Men / Women
Have as many men or women sit on chairs in a circle. Then, have 1 less person going around the circle as people that are sitting. When the music stops, all must find a lap to sit on, the odd person is out, Remove 1 Chair and continue. The last couple wins!
Long Balloon Pass
Have everyone get into a circle. Use a long balloon and have guests pass it around the circle between their legs and not using their hands. When the music stops, who ever is touch th balloon is out,
Suggested music: Can’t Touch This.
Pass and Guess
This is a good game for the dinner hour. A jar is filled with Jelly Beans and is passed around the table. Each person must write on a piece of paper their guess and their name. They then hand it to the DJ. The person who gets the closest wins the jar and beans!
Human Ring Toss
This high energy game can be done many times to get everyone involved. It takes 6 teams of two, one person wears a hat with a point on it and is the catcher, the other is the tosser. It is a simple game, the first team to catch 4 rings wins!
Each team is given a bag of marshmallows and tooth picks. The object is to make something as a team in a certain amount of time. You can spice this up by making it a theme, i.e. Football, Horses, work related, etc…
This is a team game. Each person has a straw, they need to suck up 1 marshmallow and carry it across the dance floor and put i into a glass and run back and slap the hand of the next person in line. 1st team to get one marshmallow for each player wins.
Suggested Music: Rock ‘n Roll Part 2
Mummy or Present Wrap
1 person is the wrappie and 2 or 3 are the wrappers. Two rolls of toilet paper are used. Wrappers run around and wrap the wrappie. At the Mitzvah, you can also include bows, ribbons, garland or whatever.
Suggested Music: Monster Mash
Everyone is on the dance floor. Play a song and have everyone dance. Yell out a number and the people must get into groups of that number. Anyone not in a group of that number is out. Everyone can play this, young and old!
This is a very fast and upbeat activity. Two bikes are used with teams of how many ever you want. The object is to ride the bike down to an orange cone and back to the next team member. Before taking off on trike, contestants must put on “Special Clothes”. Any number of people can do this game.
Play a fast song and when the music stops, all must freeze. Changing songs and telling people what to do like put your hands in the air will add spice to the contest.
Put on the Walla Balla and try to make as many baskets as possible in a given time. Each of three baskets are numbered with a higher score. This can be done with as many people as you want.
Egg/ Water Balloon Toss
This game has been done for years and years. It takes two lines of people evenly numbered. They toss the egg and catch it. Each time a step backward is taken. They get farther and farther apart. The last team wins. This is a game that must be done outside. You can also use water balloons.
Another Classic. This game is great for young and old as well. All you need is one long piece of rope and strong people. This can be spiced up by making the teams do it backwards. This also should be played outdoors.
You can have as many people as you like play this game. Have the players come to the dance floor with a chair. Everyone must sit. The MC calls something out like a “Mastercard”. The players run to find one. While they are gone, we remove one chair. The person who comes back and doesn’t have a seat is out. This can be done quickly by calling another item while people are still out and removing another chair.
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